!!!!!!!urgent Suspension Help Needed!!!

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Ok been replacing the strut rod bushings today,the drivers side went fine yesterday,now today the passenger side threaded rod is hung up on the washer. UGGGHHHH!!! the washer will turn so far by itself and the rod will turn with the washer. I put an extra nut on the end of the rod and have beat the crap out of it but it won't budge. it will rotate free but won't let go of the washer. any ideas? My only one was to drill and tap threads in the washer so I can clamp a pair of visegrips on a bolt. my kit comes with new washers. one more wierd question,the drivers side bushings were exactly the same and non marked,but the passenger side are different and marked right front and right rear. is this a product of load on the front suspension or something?